Friday, February 15, 2008

I HATE BLIND DATES


Over the years well meaning friends and family have tried setting me up with men. And after each attempt I say never again. Well against my better judgement I allowed myself to be set up by a relative last night. And all I can say is "WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THESE MEN OUT HERE!!!"

The date started nice enough, but progressed to diasterous very quickly. His first mistake was sitting next to me in the restaurant booth, (you know I politely asked him to move to the other side), then he asked me how many men I've slept with in the last year, (none of his flippin business). And the final straw was this statement, made with a straight face, intent on an answer from me. "So, S. what's wrong with you that you are almost 40, childless and still single?" Let me tell you, my mouth hit the floor, hard. I couldn't believe it. Still can't. I looked him in his eye to see if he was serious and the bastard said, "WELL?". Like he was annoyed that I didn't immediately answer. Needless to say, I not so politely told him what an ignorant question that was. Gathered my belongings and told him to go "Straight To Hell, Fucking Asshole!"

Why do me think that we are so desperate for their company that they can say or do whatever they want and get away with it. What woman in her right mind would have continued to tolerate his presense after that kind of behavior?

Yes, I'm single. Yes, I'm childless. And yes, I'm almost forty. But none of that means I'm an idiot who will put up with being insulted on a first date! None of that means I'm so desperate to have a man in my life that I'll accept an ass-hole just to say I have a man. I have and will be fine all by myself before I will ever put up with shit like that again or ever!

So, I'm back to my original rule. NO BLIND DATES!!!

Right now, I can't wait to get my hands on the relative who thought this was the guy for me. He is soooo Dead Meat!!

Sorry about the ranting and bad language. But I needed to get it out. I slept fit-fully last night, and knew if I didn't vent soon the next man I came across was going to have hell to pay. And I'd hate to inflict my bad attitude on someone who didn't deserve it. I think I'm okay now that I've gotten it off my chest.

I hope you all had a better Valentine's day then I did.

S.

13 comments:

Diane said...

OMG, OMG, OMG, I'm stunned. What an ass. You should have countered back with asking him why he's single, blah blah blah. It's quite obvious why though, he's an ass.

Isn't knitting much more fun than dating?

Red Dog Knits - Kristi and Otis said...

As someone who married and had children later and remembering having to respond to that question on countless occasions, I had an arsenal of replies - "'cause I'm a virgin and am waiting for THE one", "having ____(insert STD here) makes it hard to find good people"; "I haven't found someone better than my vibrator" and other ones that are not clean enough to comment on ;) Best wishes and thank god for knitting, eh?

Amy said...

Yikes! What an asshole. I like Kristi's ideas, personally :)

Amanda said...

GOOD FOR YOU for getting up and leaving!!! You DESERVE way WAY more that that. I'm in the same boat. I will NOT settle for less. I'd rather be alone with me, myself and I than be with a jackass.

And to think, when we're on a first date we tend to show our BEST. Wonder what his WORST is. YIKES

Dana said...

Ewwww, a sitter-besider. I always laugh at couples in restaurants that have to do that. Dude, personal space? Ever heard of it?

I'm glad you didn't bother to answer his question. And why is HE still single, that's the ultimate question. Duh.

Have a better weekend!

Miranda said...

who raises people that act like this?! Seriously! I hate sitter-next-to-ers also!!!

jae said...

I can't begin to come up with a comment that adequately describes his behaviour. I'm glad you stood up for yourself (literally)! He may not get it but you did the right thing by walking away.

Nettie said...

I hoped that people like him only existed in the movies. Damn what an idiot. I hope you make the person who set the date up pay.

Khadijha Caitlin said...

Wow - you should find his mama and let her know how he behaved.

Larjmarj said...

Jeez what a total sphincter. Good for your for getting up and leaving before he pushed you over the edge ending up with a public vasectomy at the end of a dull butter knife.

Fool..........

peacockchic said...

I can only reiterate what the others have said. ASSHOLE!!! Probably the reason we are still single is because of asses like him.

Leeann said...

Unbelievable! I can't believe that such a person would actually exist. (I also can't believe you're almost 40!) Good for you for walking away.

Nik said...

When men used to ask me that, I'd throw the question right back at them. I'd say "What's wrong with YOU that you're the same age as I am, also with no children and not with anyone." That would usually shut them up real quick.